Sex and sexuality in Pakistan
06 Aug, 2008
- Writing something about the society of Pakistan, I categorized the Pakistani people into:
This class includes government machinery, industrialists, Ministers and armed personals.
These guys haven’t any thing to do with Islam. They usually eat drink and remain happy.
There is no different between this class and westerners socially. Because they live in Pakistan but adopt customs of the West. So all the so-called "evils" that are common in West are also found in this class.
This class includes most religious concerning people because they always have the need of God to remove their problems and for improving their life standard. About 2% of people, who say Islamic prayers, fall in this category.
This class includes people who don’t know about Islam and Mohammed. Their day starts in quest of filling their bellies and ends with searching sleeping place. Mostly, students of Islamic Madrassa belong to this category. Most of the Taliban, prior to indoctrination, were among them. They are illiterate and can not even recite Islamic prayer.
I noticed that Muslims living in infidel countries, enjoying equal rights and facilities, view Islam differently than those living in Islamic countries. This is because, they think Islam has something that changes the society and life of people. But sadly, Islam destroys family system, allows polygamy and support dictatorship.
Many Muslims in the West think that wine, gays, pre martial sex, abortion, porn and lesbians don’t exist in Islamic countries. But in reality, I will say these things are probably as common in Pakistan. I haven’t seen the West yet, but know well about Pakistan. I toured a lot and having friends of different provinces I know a lot about this.
It is very common and easily accessible. I can have a bottle while writing this article just pressing some numbers on my cell phone. For the elite class, wine is like mineral water supplied to their homes. About all the hotels have special supply of champagne. For the middle class, being drunk seems "sin" and people use it usually during celebrations and festivals. As shown in Indian films, it is common in parties. Wine of every type is available in Pakistan. Even villagers produce their indigenous wine to suffice the need of local people.
Quest of fulfilling sexual desires starts quickly after the age of puberty reaches.
I think it is natural because same behavior is found in animals. But I am not here to write whether pre martial sex is good or bad. I will only describe how it exists in Pakistan. Due to honor killings, girls normally have to keep them restrained. The existence of premarital sex among girls have comparatively smaller ratio than sodomy amongst boys.
Sodomy is very common in Pakistan. It is more common in areas of NWFP where Islamization is stronger then in other provinces. Actually, every one need to be sexually satisfied by wet dreams, masturbation or pre martial sex. But, in Islam, masturbation can cause pregnancy of fingers. Therefore, the only way left, prior to marriage, is sex with any girl, boy or animal. Since, fewer girls are engage in premarital sex in fear of honor killing and other Islamic rulings, the only one way left for Muslim youngsters to satisfy himself sexually. In Pakistan, people feel ashamed to masturbate or telling about it. On the other hand, they feel proud of telling about their sodomy. This is a fact. Despite all these activities, prostitution is still flourishing. For whores, every hour is rush hour. And due to technological advancements, you can now call "call girls" to your apartment via cell phones. These cell numbers are very common due to advertisement.
Most common term in Pakistan is "heera mandi" (sex market). Every Pakistani reading this knows very well about it. This market is flourishing in every town and village of the country. Police and other law enforcement agencies take their "share" in this business.
Last week, all friends of mine were talking about what percentage of people in Pakistan abstain from sex before marriage. We asked this question to 100 boys from different regions of Pakistan in our university. Frank with us, only four students said, they abstained from sexual acts of any type completely. Amongst Muslims in Pakistan, only 7% can fight their lust and don’t commit "zinah". Every honest Pakistani can not but agree with these statistics.
Being a boy, I can not ask girls about this in fear of being honor-killed.
Honor-killing is very common and an act of pride in Pakistan. Every day I read in local newspaper about the honor-killings. But the interesting thing is that those, who honor-kill girls, themselves indulge in premarital sex—a tragic double standard.
It is man's monopoly in Pakistan. Men want to have all kinds of relations with other girls. But when they discover or doubt that a girl from their own family is doing such act of "sin"—then there is only one cure for her, honor-killing.
Despite having such high rate of premarital sex taking place behind the scene—Pakistanis, myself included, used to boast that Western people are shameless and without any moral values for having open premarital relationship. But, now, I think it is everywhere in one way or another. Muslims living in western countries—who think that Islamic lands are pure and such kind of acts, which they perceive as "evils", don’t exist here—should get rid of their vain disillusion. They should never think that Islamic societies are morally good than other societies.
So, if you are looking for a son-in-law or daughter-in-law from Pakistan, there is no guarantee that he/she (particularly he) will be chaste.
Amar Khan is a Pakistan-born ex-Muslim.